Want to get down and dirty, but have a code red? Menstruation, despite being a natural process, is still often surrounded by misconceptions and societal taboos. In this article we will figure out how to do period sex right and release you from all shame and reservations.
Benefits of Period Sex: Yup, they exist!
Blood can be a natural lubricant for sure, but there are some other benefits that can come along:
- Pain Relief: Orgasm can help alleviate menstrual cramps for some people. This is because orgasms lead to the release of endorphins, which are the body’s natural painkillers.
- Reduced Headache and Symptoms: Just as an orgasm might help with menstrual cramps, it can also potentially help in reducing headaches and some symptoms due to the release of endorphins.
- Shorter Period: There’s some anecdotal evidence to suggest that orgasms can help in shortening the duration of a period, although scientific evidence is limited. The contractions from an orgasm might help shed menstrual blood and uterine lining faster.
Proceed with Caution: Health Risks of Period Sex
The risk of transmitting or contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) might be higher during menstruation. This is because the virus or bacteria can thrive in the menstrual blood, and the cervix is slightly more open during menstruation, which may facilitate the spread of STIs.
To protect against STIs, barrier methods are especially critical. Male and female condoms are the most common barriers that protect against many STIs when used correctly and consistently. Remember that some STIs, like herpes and HPV, can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, so even with condom use, there is still a risk.
If you’re in a monogamous relationship, both partners have been tested for STIs, and you’re using another form of birth control (or are okay with the possibility of pregnancy), then you might choose not to use a barrier method like a condom. However, it’s essential to have open communication with your partner and to get regular medical check-ups.
Period Sex Tip 1: Open up!
The Importance of an open dialogue is never to be underestimated.
Communication is the bedrock of any relationship. When we get intimate during menstruation, having an open dialogue becomes paramount. Not only does it pave the way for mutual understanding, but it also fosters a safe environment for both partners to express desires, apprehensions, and boundaries.
Communication can also dispell myths. Many misconceptions about menstruation can be addressed and clarified, ensuring both partners are on the same page.
Feeling too shy? Here’s how to approach it:
- Choose the Right Time: Opt for a moment when both of you are relaxed and free from distractions.
- Be Direct but Gentle: Use clear language but ensure that the tone remains non-confrontational.
- Emotional Needs: Menstruation can be a stressful time for some. Address any emotional needs or concerns that may arise.
- Be Empathetic: Understand that everyone’s feelings are valid, even if you don’t necessarily agree. Navigate Reservations or Concerns, listen actively.
- Ask Open-ended Questions: Instead of yes or no questions, ask open-ended ones to foster a deeper understanding.
Period Sex Tip 2: Get comfy af!
If period sex is not a thing that makes you let loose like “normal” sex, hack your way into the mood:
- Place the towel: For some of us this is common, inevitable business. Not ruining white bedsheets with the right preparation can help you relax more easy.
- Light the candles: Yup, it’s feels like a clichée, but it gives the right vibe for many of us to relax. Fake it ’til you make it.
- Close the screens: Setting the mood also means to put our phones aside to avoid distractions or phubbing.
- Make time: Plan in time for your partner and yourself. Make it a date. Focus, but don’t force it.
Period Sex Tip 3: Just lock it out
Period sex, but without the period? Want to lock your period out for a few hours and disappear under the sheets? The Ziggy Cup is a reusable disc that can be used during sex. It covers light to heavier flow while being an ultimate reusable and eco-friendly period solution.
And the best part: Ziggy Cup can’t be felt at all — no matter what you’re doing.
Ziggy Cup is made of 100% medical-grade silicone. This innovative menstrual cup is healthy for your body because there are no odors, dryness, or irritation.
Last, but not least: Period-Sex-What-ifs
Here, we collected a few FAQs for you:
What if my partner doesn’t want to have sex with me during my period?
Personal comfort is the top priority when getting intimate. If your partner is fully educated about menstruation and is “just not into it”, you should simply accept their decision. Some people also have misconceptions and biases about the period. In that case, feel free to clarify and educate.
Can I get pregnant during my period?
Yes, it is possible to get pregnant from having sex during your period. Here’s why:
- Sperm Longevity: Sperm can live inside a persons body for up to five days. If a person has a short menstrual cycle or a longer period, they could ovulate soon after the period ends. So, if they have intercourse toward the end of their menstruation and ovulate early in their cycle, there’s a possibility that the sperm could fertilize an egg.
- Irregular Ovulation: Some people might have irregular menstrual cycles or experience sporadic ovulation. This unpredictability can increase the risk of getting pregnant if they have intercourse during their period.
- Breakthrough Bleeding: Sometimes, what is assumed to be a period is actually breakthrough bleeding, which can sometimes occur during ovulation. If a person mistakes breakthrough bleeding for their period and has unprotected intercourse, there’s a risk of pregnancy.
What if I have period pain, but my partner wants to have sex?
As always, do whatever feels good and don’t force yourself to have sex, when you maybe experience pain from your period. You are not a machine and you are allowed to take a break from Sex (and everything else) which experiencing period pain. Again, communication helps in defining what’s acceptable and what’s off-limits.